There’s something about the word Menopause that sounds…well, old. I went to a BlogHer gathering a few days ago and while I’ve become accustomed to being one of the older people at any tech event here in San Francisco, I felt particularly matronly as I told other, younger attendees, some of whom write “Mommy” blogs, that I blog about Menopause. “Wow, how interesting. I’ll tell my mother about it,” was the general response. Even I cringe when, at my husband’s prodding, I tell dinner guests what my blog is about. (Did they think that I was younger? Do they now see me as “over the hill?”) There’s always a pregnant pause in the conversation following that admission, followed by an uncomfortable, “that’s nice, Wendy.”
I’ve learned that “meno” comes from the Greek word meaning month (thus, menses and mentrual); the “pause” in the word is derived from the Latin, pausa, meaning to stop or cause to cease. But in plain ‘ol English, menopause sounds like the combination of men and pause. Not a good connotation. Perhaps this is why it’s often referred to as “the big M,” “the change of life,” or simply, “the change,” and women avoid acknowledging it publicly, even while they’re perspiring profusely, fanning themselves and wearing sleeveless shirts in the middle of winter. Maybe the embarassement of being menopausal, or talking about it, would evaporate if there was a new, better word for it. Something that describes beauty, power, renewal and strength. Any ideas?

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I come to you via Pamela Jeanne.
I am one of those who is a mommy of young ones and who is qualified to read your blog (I still can’t bring myself to say “I am menopausal).
How about “per-sapia” for perceptum sapientia, or “to gain wisdom”?
Alternatively, how about “ferven alienus sensus” for “hot freaking flash”?
Thanks for your suggestions. Both would be better than menopause! We should just call it like it is and forget the euphemisms.
In my youth I always thought of the cessation of monthly periods as freedom. Freedom from pregnancy, freedom from cramps, freedom from blemishes, freedom to have sex.
As far as being over the hill is concerned, as a cyclist I see the downhill slope as a joy ride. Adnd let’s face it, the expression “up hill” usually refers to a laborious trek.
The raging hormones with the hot flashes and sleepless nights don’t last forever – thank God!
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